So much of the fatphobia of personal interactions is just an admission that you couldn’t like yourself if you were fat which just means you don’t like yourself. When I realized it was just people screaming “I DON’T LIKE MYSELF,” it lost a lot of its capacity to wound me.
Someone secure in their relationship to their own body and worth would not be so moved by the mere existence of people in a space
Not this ass being so fat you’re MAD!!
The you don’t care about yourself thing is a projection. Because you haven’t cared enough about yourself to find some self worth outside of the attachment to the arbitrary meat sack assignment we were given at birth.
One of the biggest ways people tell on themselves is through the choice not to mind their business. When you do choose minding your business, you can actually decide to share your vulnerabilities intentionally instead of clumsily and by accident.