Two posts so far with this kind of language about wanting to “kill” or “murder” one of her sons. It’s not normal.

Posting Tyler’s standardized test scores on Facebook? Again, not normal. This screams narcissism.

I understand that many of you think this is all normal, but it’s not. Normal maternal love is boundaried, even-keeled, respectful, and never infantilizing or objectifying. There is an epidemic of mothers who lean on their sons emotionally and it presents just like this.

Again, this is enmeshing. Go read about enmeshed family systems if you don’t get it and think I’m “reading too much into it.” There’s plenty of reputable material available that explains how damaging this kind of subtle but sustained emotional pressure is.

When a mother subjects her son to a drip-feed of covert demands for attention and emotional caretaking, she effectively and devastatingly suppresses his self-differentiation. This produces in the son chronic feelings of obligation to the mother as well as powerlessness and rage.

You may think this is normal, but it’s not normal when you look at it in aggregate. The family is a system. When there are this many little flags in a curated public profile, you can reasonably infer that there’s substantial (if covert) emotional pressure behind closed doors.

Adding this here as a postscript: https://x.com/bx_on_x/status/1...

@nua_peasant Just found this. People are already screaming at you, but you're not wrong. Don't listen to them. You know what you see. And thank you.

@DisaffectedPod Thank you, Josh! Reminds me why I try to stay away from this app. Also reminds me how blind people are, which is disheartening.

@nua_peasant This is inappropriate. Please delete. Tyler Robinson made his choice. His relationship with his family is irrelevant.

@jlippincott_ His relationship with his family is relevant to anyone with a sincere desire to understand how things like this happen. You may find it distasteful, but family of origin is a factor — often a major one, whether publicized or not.

@nua_peasant We don’t talk about about how this type of mothering warps sons

@nua_peasant Ew. I have a two year old boy and love him so much, I always wonder if I’m too much and try to think if I would post like that when he’s older, but no. No, her language is just ew.

@MartinaMarkota Yes! My youngest (6) is super snuggly which I love, but I’m very careful not to ever overwhelm him. I offer him tons of affection and receive his affection with great joy, but, for example, when HE is done with a hug, the hug is over.

@nua_peasant This seems an astute observation

@nua_peasant Good grief

@nua_peasant Oh man...doesn't surprise me a bit. Mother-son enmeshment is very tragic. Mothers should rear sons who DO NOT NEED mom for emotional support to survive as men. Sons who respect mom and dad, but live as individuals, not mommy's little darling. This happens SO much nowadays, it's

@Elizaliza56 Yes, exactly. It’s normalized, but it’s incredibly damaging to young men.

@nua_peasant It's basically covert incest/emotional incest, right? The helicopter mother uses the son as a therapist or as their main companion instead of fulfilling their obligatory role as mother.

@Animegoy008 Yes, exactly. Mother subtly but persistently extracts emotional caretaking and attention from the son instead of encouraging his self-differentiation.

@nua_peasant I hope you can ignore the hate you're receiving for posting this. Your observations are astute. Those who have personality disordered mothers, recognize what you say is true.

@josie_halles I truly appreciate it, thank you.

@nua_peasant This is very similar to my mother in law and it took until my wedding to see how fucked up she is. Mom of 3 boys, divorced and not at all recovered from that. Used them to make her feel better about herself. The middle one needs the most help and it’s like she gets off on it.

@Hellowow39995 Yes. I’m sorry. It’s very “IYKYK.”

@nua_peasant Thank you for posting these screenshots. Agree with your analysis. I am shocked by some of the attacking comments here. It's important to try to get a full understanding of what happened here...

@JackieK_oOo I kicked the hornet’s nest in the sense that while these dynamics are widespread, people are either **very defensive** because they come from this type of family system, or they have ostrich syndrome and don’t like to look at complex psychological darkness.

@nua_peasant This take is wrong. Mother's love their kids. My wife has taken our little children on "dates" a few times. It's not weird. Plz don't come for the parents. Their son prbly got infected by the mind virus at college. Should they have been better? Prbly, but they did turn him in.

@CrytpoCaleb Do years of reading on mother-son enmeshment, covert narcissism, and narcissistic family systems and you’ll understand.

@nua_peasant My grandmother was always very affectionate and permissive of her son, whereas, she was emotionally abusive of her daughters. It's disordered and it damages everyone in the orbit.

@nua_peasant My mom did this to me and it’s taken a long time to figure it out and come to terms with it. It really messed up my ability to have healthy relationships.

@microondas____ I’m really sorry. You’re not alone. Keep up the self-healing, even when it’s hard.

@nua_peasant This kind of social media performance indeed is legitimately creepy and probably net damaging for boys, but I would not be too eager to chase a narrative for clout.

@graehl I barely post on here — look at my history. No clout-chasing. Just my honest impressions as a person who has studied dysfunctional family systems in depth and detail.

@nua_peasant I have five sons. You are 100% spot-on with your assessment.

@nua_peasant I do not understand how grown adults act like this on social media. Make your accounts private, and stop posting every last thing on Facebook.