There is a vast difference between talking about sex, and sexual fantasies - sexual fantasies barely have anything to do with sex, but everything to do with trauma. sexual fantasies are simplifications of the world, deliberate simplifications of things that are complicated, and
Once upon a time there was a little boy that got raped by his paedophile uncle. His name was C, for Child Abuse. After being abused sometime before his teenage years, he became a very moody and aggressive teenager. He changed schools and moved away from home early, and he
A boy of 14 years wakes up in a hospital bed. He has no memories, except weeks of nightmares, of demons torturing him for literally, the entirety of everything he can remember. He does not remember anything about his childhood, a complete blank slate. He does not remember
Once upon a time there was a little girl, who lost her Dad to cancer. She became very sad, and felt very abandoned. She was maybe 10 years old. Her name was E, for Emotionally Stuck in Adolescence. She was raised by her Mother who never told her No ever again. Then E grew a
Recreating the “scene” of your trauma and re-enacting it, regardless of which role, if any, you choose to act out for yourself, primarily works as a way to be “in control” of a situation in which you felt "powerless”. And in so doing, you can create terrible terrible misery in