About Me I have 4 kids ages 7 and under and I'm married to a wonderful wife who is a physician's assistant (PA) in the emergency department. 2 boys and 2 girls. My X dad follows: @Cernovich @AJA_Cortes @shawngorham @RobertMSterling @BPD1776

Getting Ready to Have a Kid I'm just gonna be straight. You need to be married and ready. I understand things happen, and all babies are wanted babies. But your plan A should be to grow up, pursue a virtuous wife, and then - and only then - have many children.

We had 4 years alone. My wife and I traveled the world, she got a masters, had 2 weddings and 3 honeymoons. Then we had our first kid. Math: I was 30 and she was 22 when we met (1/2 your age + 7, fellas)

Pregnancy Pregnancy sucks. I'm not talking about your wife, I'm talking about the fear and busy-work the process drives. Scans, labs, tests, check-ins. Questionable reports that require specialist review. We've had 3 questionable reports during pregnancy, 4 healthy kids.

Keep your wife active. Hikes, sports, yoga, travel, adventure. Healthy wife, healthy pregnancy, healthy baby. Feed her with exotic foods like you know the ingredients to making a human, because she is. Dad, do your best to go to it all. Go to all the things.

Talk and sing to her belly Babies in the womb are very human, very early. Vibration, movement, sound. They get it. Party with your baby that is growing inside your wife. And keep doing... um, you know what.

Birth Plan MAKE A BIRTHPLAN. Discuss scenarios. Write it down. Rehearse it. All 4 of our births I've been in the game, active, involved and the quarterback of my wife's birth room. I got help to catch 2 babies.

Wife's resume: Natural - Breach Natural - Normal Natural - Normal Home - Normal If anyone has a question on a breach birth, my wife is a huge advocate.

I believe natural birth is the best To each her own. I've never grown a human. Emergencies happen. But dads, given the choice, you want a drug free, natural birth. On or after the due date. Trust me on this one. My kids came out awake, knowing who I was.

Notes for Men and Women Wives, it takes the beast in you to go natural, but you can do it. Husbands, healthy sperm makes healthy babies. Follow the fitness and health guys on here and make sure you send SOLDIERS into the fight.

Delay Vaccines I explain here. Delay and space. Relax, all my kids are current on schedules, but ZERO side effects / injuries. Read: https://x.com/matthewachang/st...

Breast Feed Plain and simple, breast is beast. Read my post on a practical plan and guide to dad's role in breastfeeding. Notes on equipment, formula, and bottles: https://x.com/matthewachang/st...

Moms on Call Dads, just buy the book and read it. It's a great prep for men. For opinionated women, they may argue with it. But now you're informed. Good medical info. A few rules: moms can't swaddle. Dads can. Feeding: a little light. Wife feeds the babies A LOT more

App: Wonder Weeks There's an APP that's insanely good for tracking your baby's progress through their "leaps". Babies upgrade on two time scales: Mechanical - Sit, crawl, walk - this is insanely variable and the standard deviation is huge. Mental - "leaps", predictable.

Infant Led Weaning We let our babies self wean starting in month 5. Two of the kids grabbed ribs or chicken legs to tell us THEY were ready. Buy a book to learn how to prep the appropriate food. Rules: there are no rules, babies LOVE to eat. It's pure play to them.

Play with your baby Dads are fun. Full stop, never forget it. Big play from week 1 (day one) is in order. When your kid likes a funny face, you make it 100 times. When they want peek-a-boo, you do it until they stop laughing. Then you do it again.

Mom's job is tough It's way harder. Be appreciative and show support. At this stage of life, she has a higher calling. Your job is to crush it in life, home, and health. For your family.

Go to Church Raise your kids and grow your marriage in faith. The Charlie and Erica Kirk tragedy, response, and memorial service showed us exactly how important it is to have a firm family foundation. On Jesus. Raise your kids in the word.

Don't over complicate Your kid does not need to be driven to activities 3-4 times a week. Chill out, create a family environment that is athletic, artistic, musical, full or reading and cuddling.

Chill out on screens To raise stimulated and ahead-of-the-curve children you need to pull the screens. I wrote a guide on this, we do not have a TV in our house. https://x.com/matthewachang/st...

Discipline starts with dad Dads, keep a tight house. Dads who don't spank, we know who you are. Tough but fair. Kind and explaining. When tempers flair and mom is frazzled, dad sets the tone. Always back up mom. For sons, make sure they fear you more than a grizzly bear.

Travel around the world Easiest time to travel is with a pouched breast feeding baby. Start traveling and don't stop, ever. My kids have passport stamps in: Italy, Uganda, Kenya, Jamaica, Costa Rica, Belgium. Is it hard? Sure. But the fun makes up for it.

Pre-School It's a great option starting at 18 months (walking and some talking). Daycare: very necessary with two working parents, but this doubles the necessity of breastmilk, because daycare babies get sick more often.

Schooling Home school, private school, public school, charter, etc etc etc. There are so many options. Both parents need to be aligned. Likely, one of you will need to compromise. Probably you dad. @DeAngelisCorey is the biggest advocate. We do pre-school to public.

@ShinghiD sorry forgot about you bro

@matthewachang Love all of this - mostly fully aligned - and 100% aligned on the vibes of it all 3x natural births, now on the other end of it with one off to college, homeschooled and loved it, alt schooled and loved it, grew some amazing humans and loving it Would add - we weren't sure if

@abemurray Amazing work Abe! Yeah there’s 1000 ways to get to the right place, the key is for dad to get in the game. College 😳

@matthewachang A few tips, if they pee in the bathtub, it's good. It means they won't pee on you while you're getting them dressed. If they poop in the bathtub, that's a different ballgame. Hopefully you're wife is near because that's a 2 person cleanup job.

@matthewachang Every post on this thread is dead on. Well done Matt!