@datingbyblaine sorry but i’m on his side, different strokes for different folks (also, yes to lower case) and i think writing someone off bc of that is ridiculous. all he’s successful, i’m sure he can properly spell in an email if the job requires. this is the same flavor as “he uses android i

@SinaHartung Aligned that her reaction is extreme. I wouldn't advise a single woman to cancel a date over a text exchange like this. At the same time, her reaction doesn't surprise me (e.g. I wouldn't personally meet up with a guy who texts like this if I were single...) At the least, as a

@datingbyblaine So, don’t be yourself. Got it. 🙄

@renegadesilicon I don't think that's the right conclusion ♥️ Be yourself, on the date. Use text for the logistics of getting there.

@datingbyblaine If I text someone in my timezone and they are getting back to me at midnight the relationship is in the waste bin. She must be out her mind.

@This_Guhy Or she's in Los Angeles for work 👍

@datingbyblaine this is the most effective ragebait of all time

@ArthurMacwaters Controversy drives clicks apparently 🤣

@datingbyblaine I can feel my age here. I don't see what he did wrong

@bellisaurius He should ask her on a date, not ask her "what u been up to tonight" ♥️

@datingbyblaine Her reaction is….extreme. Should he have asked her out earlier? Sure. I see him as being friendly and trying to start a conversation. 🤷‍♀️

@LamiereT Agree, if I also believe he'd land more dates with better messaging ♥️

@datingbyblaine @datingbyblaine for the clueless ones, what did he do wrong? A breakdown would be nice lol

@jeffregist The main problem is that he sent her multiple paragraphs of text without asking her out. She already spent 30min on the phone with his matchmaker, and agreed to go on a date with him. Now he's beating around the bush? Not problematic in isolation, but not ideal: - Calling

@datingbyblaine Iron Rule #23: No texting except for logistics

@TerribleJyon Bingo 🎯 Yes there are exceptions to that rule, but unless you're literally 100% certain you're a good texter, stick to logistics!

@datingbyblaine I think the main issue is texting someone through a match maker vs texting for regular conversation. I read nothing wrong with his response for a day to day text, but I can understand the problems when both of them know what the purpose of this is.

@RF413959258 You caught the point everyone else seems to have missed: they were introduced via a matchmaker. They both already opted into meeting for a date.

@datingbyblaine If a woman feels the “ick” form this simple exchange, then she is doomed to be single and alone for her entire life. If you friend is above 30 and she cares that much about this text, I can write her future like a book. Anyway, hope she enjoys those dried up ovaries and cats

@datingbyblaine She texts like a recruiter emailing about a job interview

@datingbyblaine Let's see if AI has game. Hey @grok explain what he did wrong and what you would have texted instead.

@datingbyblaine Lot of things going wrong for the guy. * Very first message is needy. He is asking about which platform. It is a micro-signal that the guy is needy and will be a "project" * He is astonished she replied. He is communicating insecurity in an awkward way. * He is attempting

@datingbyblaine Although these messages seem rather bad, if they filter properly then it might just be a blessing in disguise. JGot to rule out girls with ridiculous icks.

@datingbyblaine - If he's 40, he's trying too hard to appear young. - Awkward texting style and conversation, gives impression of an awkward person. - He is pushing for details about why she responded at that hour, hints at an accusing tone - at least let the interaction flow first, not first

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@datingbyblaine I suspect what turned her off most was the comment about the 1 AM textback. He basically called her desperate. I'm betting from the extreme response that she was old enough to indeed be a little desperate (so it stung), but not old enough to be humble-desperate. 35?